“Hurt people hurt people.”
This statement has SOME truth to it, but I feel like we need to expand it.
Hurt people hurt people UNTIL they begin to heal their hurt.
I am someone who has been hurt and for MANY years, I believe I hurt others. I would verbally abuse my partners, family, and children. Anger was my main form of communication.
When I was able to see what I was doing to my children it became clear that I needed to change.
Instead of placing blame on everyone who has hurt me in my life, I dug deep to see how I dealt with the situation. I also shifted my perspective to understand that they, too, have more than likely been hurt in their life.
I forgive them in written letters in my journal that will never reach them and then release the way I felt about them. Holding on to how they treated us only hurts us more and keeps us from healing.
We deserve to be free from the trauma. We deserve to heal from our past. We deserve to be happy right now.
If you’ve been hurt, I want to encourage you to sit down and look within.
Who hurt you?
Why do you feel like they hurt you?
Do you believe it’s possible that they were hurt in their life?
Are you willing to forgive them to free yourself from what they did to hurt you?
Their hurt is theirs to manage.
Your hurt is yours to manage, but you don’t have to manage it alone.
Let’s heal together, my friend.
If you need help, I’m here.